A STRUCTURED, TRAUMA-INFORMED PROGRAM FOR WOMEN RECOVERING FROM THE DEVASTATING IMPACT OF SEXUAL BETRAYAL AND DECEPTION.
A STRUCTURED, TRAUMA-INFORMED PROGRAM FOR WOMEN RECOVERING FROM THE DEVASTATING IMPACT OF SEXUAL BETRAYAL AND DECEPTION.
Has sexual betrayal
turned your world upside down?
Your partner's serial cheating, internet misuse or problematic sexual behaviour has shattered the safety, certainty and trust you once knew in your relationship.
The Betrayal Prescription: Recovery Compass will help you move through the shock, pain and confusion that follow the discovery of sexual deception.
Through specialist education and guided support, you'll begin to shift out of survival mode. You'll regain your stability, understand what's happened, begin healing and make decisions about your relationship and life from a place of clarity rather than crisis.
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The secrecy, lies and broken boundaries of sexual betrayal mean that the impact of your partner's choices reaches far beyond the behaviour itself.
Discovering your partner's sexual infidelity is deeply destabilising.
When you realise that your partner has been secretly engaging with pornography, online interactions, sexual services or repeated serial affairs, the emotional turmoil is intense.
One moment you're carrying on with normal life, but the next you're overwhelmed by unwelcome thoughts and painful images. You fear that your partner will deceive you again and you're anxious about the future.
It feels like the ground beneath your feet has disappeared when everything you once believed to be real and true about your relationship starts to come into question.
You understand intellectually that something serious has happened, yet your mind keeps searching for explanations while your body remains on high alert.
Many women find themselves asking the same thing over and over again: "How did this happen, and how can I even begin to make sense of it?"
THIS IS THE PAINFUL REALITY OF SEXUAL DECEPTION.
Moving forward requires more than reassurance or advice to 'just move on'. Restoring trust requires more than promises from your partner that his sexual cheating has stopped.
You need clear information, expert guidance and a structured pathway that helps you find your feet, orient yourself, begin healing and make grounded decisions from a safe foundation.
That is exactly what Recovery Compass guides you through.
Is any of this part of your daily reality since discovering your partner's sexual deception?
You replay his secret sexual life over and over in your mind, trying to get your head around what you discovered.
You ask yourself how the person you loved and trusted most in the world could have wasted so much time, energy and money on their sexual pursuits, while knowing it would destroy you if you ever found out.
You're constantly scanning for signs that your partner is still secretly acting out.
You struggle to understand what was real and what was a lie in your relationship.
You question your own judgement and tell yourself that you must have missed the signs.
You have no idea what boundaries to set for your partner or what accountability should look like.
You feel pressured by your partner or other people to 'move on' when you still haven't really understood what happened.
You're torn between wanting the relationship to survive and running away because you're deeply hurt, angry and confused.
You feel like you've lost touch with yourself and you're not the person you were before your partner's sexual deception was exposed.
IF ANY OF THIS FEELS FAMILIAR, IT'S TIME TO STOP TRYING TO GET THROUGH IT ON YOUR OWN. ACCESSING THE RIGHT SUPPORT CAN MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE.
Introducing The Betrayal Prescription: Recovery Compass
Recovery Compass is a structured, trauma-informed psycho-educational program for women navigating the devastating aftermath of sexual betrayal and deception.
This is very different to traditional affair recovery.
This is how you will emerge from the wreckage of your partner's out-of-control sexual behaviours and a web of secrets and lies that you never imagined would be the reality in your relationship.
The program offers clear, specialist education through a carefully sequenced series of learning steps. You'll receive resources for guided reflection and nervous system regulation practices that will help you move out of survival mode, understand what has happened, stop ongoing harm and regain your sense of clarity and safety.
You'll restore the connection to yourself that was severed by your partner's betrayal and start to remember the woman you were – the version of you who you was lost and forgotten in a sexually deceptive relationship.
You'll receive lifetime* access to the materials and choose the level of support that you need from the program, while you come home to yourself so that you can make solid choices about your life and relationship.
THE 8-STEP
Recovery Compass Framework
What you'll learn
inside Recovery Compass
Recovery Compass guides you through eight carefully structured learning steps designed to help you stabilise after sexual betrayal, understand what has happened, begin healing and move forward with greater clarity and self-trust.
The curriculum has been shaped by Rhian's 13 years experience helping individuals and couples impacted by sexual betrayal, alongside professional development and specialist training as a Deceptive Sexuality And Trauma Therapist.
Phase 1: Anchor
Step 1 | From Chaos To Calm
- Understand deceptive sexuality trauma, how it affects the brain, body and nervous system and why your body is stuck in survival mode after discovery.
-Learn how stabilisation and nervous system support helps restore your sense of calm, safety and clarity so that you can turn towards a path of healing.
Step 2 | Understand The Impact Of Sexual Betrayal
- Explore the key injuries of sexual betrayal, including the impact on your sense of trust, identity and emotional security, so your reactions begin to make sense rather than feel confusing or shameful.
-Understand why your sense of reality feels so shaken after discovery, and how your mind and body respond when what you believed to be true in your relationship no longer feels certain.
Phase 2 : Orient
Step 3 | See The Whole Picture
- Recognise the two-part harm of problematic sexual behaviour and the deceptive pattern of secrecy, lies and manipulation that often surrounds it, and learn why stopping the behaviour alone does not resolve betrayal trauma.
- Understand how this experience unfolds over time, from what was hidden, to moments of discovery, to the ongoing impact that follows.
- Begin to see the layers of harm that may be affecting you.
Step 4 | Stop The Harm: Unhealthy Sexuality
- Learn what compulsive entitled sexual behaviour is, why it develops and how it harms both partners in the relationship.
- Understand what must stop immediately to prevent further damage.
Step 5 | Stop The Harm: Secrets, Lies & Manipulation
- Recognise integrity abuse, including denial, minimisation and gaslighting and learn why it's a common pattern in relationships harmed by deceptive sexuality.
- Learn how toxic relationship behaviour continues to cause harm even when sexual acting out has stopped, and understand what this means for your situation.
Phase 3 : Integrate
Step 6 | Grief, Loss & Anger
- Acknowledge the sadness, anger, erosion of trust and deep losses that follow sexual betrayal.
- Begin processing these powerful emotions so they can be integrated rather than feed into repeating cycles of rage or self-blame.
Step 7 | Responsibility, Accountability & Justice
- Explore restorative justice principles to understand what real responsibility, accountability and change look like for your partner and anchor to what is right for you as a betrayed partner and survivor of deceptive sexuality trauma.
- Learn what a structured healing process involves over time and understand the conditions and processes that your partner must engage with to support any possible meaningful and lasting relationship repair.
Phase 4 : Navigate
Step 8 | Find Your Way Forward
- Reconnect with your values, clarify your boundaries and rebuild trust in your own judgement so you can make grounded decisions about your life and relationship.
- Identify opportunities and options for your ongoing healing, and begin creating a clear, personalised plan for your next steps.
You'll receive:
8 psycho-educational learning steps with lifetime access
Each step contains a live taught session and a set of reflection prompts.
You'll also receive nervous system regulation practices to support your healing.
The curriculum is delivered gradually over 8 weeks, and you'll have lifetime* access to everything inside the Recovery Compass portal.
You can revisit the material whenever you need to reconnect with the guidance and support offered in the program.
Options For Healing & Support
Choose the level of support you need:
Bronze Level
Attend the live program sessions only (or watch them on replay) and work through the nervous system practices and reflection prompts in your own space and time.
OR
Silver Level
Get everything in the program and gain additional access to 8 x 90-minute Process Groups for in-depth processing and integration of key topics and engage in deep healing alongside other women also navigating their journey of recovery.
OR
Gold Level
Get everything in the program, access to 8 x 90-minute Process Groups, 3 x one hour 1:1 sessions, and the option to send Rhian a weekly email with any questions that have arisen for you. This level of support offers you the opportunity to receive personalised help and guidance with your specific worries or struggles.
Supported options will help you get the answers you need from your mentor and guide, Rhian Kivits, an expert on betrayal trauma and sexual deception – a very nuanced kind of relationship trauma that not enough professionals truly understand.
Recovery Compass is particularly helpful if you have spent months trying to make sense of your partner's actions, reading articles, watching videos or seeking advice but still feel confused about what sexual betrayal really means for you and your relationship. It offers you invaluable support so you no longer have to navigate the aftermath of sexual deception alone.
Is Recovery Compass
right for you?
Recovery Compass is designed for women who want clear, focused insight about what's really gone on and what it means for your future.
You've discovered repeated patterns of sexual deception, including serial cheating, pornography misuse, online interactions, use of sexual services or other problematic sexual behaviours.
You feel shocked, overwhelmed or stuck in survival mode since discovering the betrayal.
You're struggling to comprehend how and why this has happened, or why your partner didn't stop, and his answers do not fully make sense to you.
You want to understand what genuine responsibility, accountability and change looks like.
You feel confused about what boundaries to set or what should happen next to support your healing.
You want thoughtful guidance rather than pressure to make immediate decisions about the future.
You're ready to regain clarity, stability and trust in your own judgement.
If this resonates, Recovery Compass offers a lifeline to help you step out of the confusion of sexual betrayal, regain your sense of direction, reconnect to yourself and finally feel like you're moving forward.
Joining this program is a way to start showing up for yourself in ways that your partner has failed to do while he's been emotionally absent and absorbed in his hidden sexual life.
Meet Rhian Kivits
As a sex and relationship therapist, I've spent thousands of hours supporting women, men and couples navigating the painful aftermath of discovery or disclosure.
The shock, confusion and emotional turmoil you may be experiencing are very common for betrayed partners, even though it can feel deeply isolating when you're in the middle of it.
Having trained in Dr Omar Minwalla's Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma (DST) model, I created Recovery Compass to to provide the kind of structured guidance and support that many women need but rarely receive in the early stages of recovery from sexual betrayal.
Through clear education, thoughtful reflection and practical tools, I can help you regain your sense of steadiness so you can heal and navigate this difficult chapter of your life with greater clarity and confidence.
I'm really glad you're here and ready to begin your recovery.
“I didn’t feel safe enough to reflect deeply, yet with Rhian’s support and gentle challenge I was able to find my self-belief and finally see where changes were needed. Thank you so much for having the belief in me that I did not have in myself at a time when it was most needed.”
Anabel, Coach, Plymouth
“I was stuck and unable to cope but Rhian showed me how to come out the other side with more knowledge and strength and I am better for the experience. I am finding peace in my life and and sense of wanting to be alive."
Laura, Teacher, Cornwall
“Before working with Rhian, we didn’t know if we could stay together. I had intense anxiety and struggled to cope with daily life. Rhian’s sensible approach helped me think clearly enough to explore the options. As I started to feel safer and calmer, I felt able to make the right decision, with certainty."
D, Lawyer, Bristol
“I lacked perspective on my relationship and was afraid to stay true to myself. Rhian opened my eyes, and now I feel far more worthy because I have found forgiveness and love for myself."
Kate, Nutritionist, Devon
Shift out of survival mode after sexual betrayal and restore your sense of clarity and calm.
Make sense of what happened so you're no longer trapped in confusion and ongoing harm.
Rebuild your self-trust so you can make choices that feel right for you and move forward.
Recovery Compass starts:
2 July 2026
Live Taught Sessions (replays available)
THURSDAYS 1pm UK, 8am ET
2 July, 9 July, 16 July, 23 July, 30 July, 6 August, 13 August, 20 August
Optional Process Groups (90 minutes, not recorded)
TUESDAYS or WEDNESDAYS 1pm UK, 8am ET
Silver and Gold level participants will be allocated to a small process group after enrolment.
The groups will offer you the chance to engage in trauma healing and nervous system regulation practices, process and integrate the material covered within the program and connect with other women who are going through a parallel experience.
Depending on enrolment numbers, this will take place on either Tuesday or Wednesday at 1pm UK, 8am ET.
Process groups will begin during the week commencing 6th July.
Get 3 supportive
bonus resources
BONUS 1:
The Rest & Reset Toolkit
Women experiencing sexual betrayal trauma often struggle with rest and sleep.
When your body has been in survival mode, it no longer feels safe enough to switch off. You may find yourself running on empty, with night-time anxiety and disrupted sleep leaving you feeling like there’s no break from what’s happened.
The Rest & Reset Toolkit is designed to help you understand why this is happening and gently support your mind and body to settle.
You'll receive:
The 19-page Sleep & Rest Recovery Guide offers clear guidance and practical tools to help you feel calmer at night and support yourself back towards rest.
The 11-minute Preparation For Sleep Guided Audio helps you unwind with a gentle breathwork practice when sleep feels out of reach.
BONUS 2:
The Self-Blame Reframe
Sexual betrayal is not something you asked for or could have predicted. Yet many partners find themselves caught in self-blame after discovery.
You'll receive:
The 9-page Self-Blame Reframe Guide to help you make sense of self-blame and reframe the thoughts that keep you stuck, so you can begin to feel more grounded, clear and less caught up in guilt and regret.
A 7 minute Guided Audio you can use when self-blame takes over, to help you return to a more grounded and accurate perspective.
BONUS 3:
Ease The Overwhelm
Begin to understand and manage the overwhelm that often follows sexual betrayal and deception.
Return to a calmer, clearer way of thinking so that you no longer feel pressured to figure everything out all at once.
You'll receive:
An exclusive Audio Episode exploring overwhelm from a sexual betrayal and nervous system perspective, including why it is such a common response after discovery, how it can impact your healing journey and three practical tools to help you feel calmer and more grounded.
A Summary Guide to help you step out of emotional overload, with eight reflection prompts to support your self-awareness, self-compassion and understanding as you move through recovery.
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Case study: Charlotte
After discovering her husband's activities in online fetish groups, it took Charlotte three months to persuade him to seek help.
Even then, despite him attending therapy and a 12-step recovery group, Charlotte didn’t feel any better. She was exhausted, unable to sleep properly, caught in constant rumination about what she had seen, and living with a persistent sense of being on edge that she couldn’t shake.
Once Charlotte began to understand that her reactions weren't simply distress, but trauma responses, the intensity of her experience began to make sense. Instead of trying to push her feelings away or make quick decisions about the relationship, she began focusing on stabilising herself.
She feels more settled and grounded after working with Rhian. She is no longer caught in the same cycles of overthinking or emotional overwhelm. She feels better able to recognise when something doesn’t feel right and respond from a place of clarity rather than reactivity.
There are still difficult moments, but she now understands what is happening within her, what she needs, and how to support herself through it.
She no longer feels stuck grieving for the past or focused on fixing her husband. Instead, she feels more anchored in herself and more hopeful about the future.
Case study: Julie
Julie had already engaged with a whole year's couple therapy.
But the therapy looked at unmet needs, communication patterns and how she might have contributed to her partner’s motivations to cheat. In particular there was a spotlight on Julie’s menopause, and difficulties with intimacy, which made her feel inadequate and shameful.
Instead of feeling supported, she began to feel increasingly blamed. She left sessions questioning herself, wondering if she had somehow caused what happened.
When Julie was introduced to the concepts in Recovery Compass, she began to understand that what she had gone through was not simply a relationship issue. It was a pattern of behaviour that involved secrecy, deception and a deliberate distortion of reality. This created a huge shift. The confusion she had been feeling began to lift as she developed language for what had actually taken place.
She stopped berating herself and started to recognise the reality of the harm. She was no longer willing to accept the responsibility that had been deflected onto her.
She now feels stronger and she practices self-care, supporting her nervous system every single day. She is taking consistent steps towards rebuilding her confidence and her life.
Case study: Priya
Priya's partner had never intended to leave her, but built a secret sexual world filled with other women who were seeking no-strings sex.
What unsettled Priya most was the deception. This wasn’t a one-off 'mistake'. It was a hidden pattern of behaviour that had existed alongside their marriage for many years.
With Rhian's help, Priya found her voice. She was able to insist on a full disclosure from her partner, rather than accepting partial truths, excuses or ongoing ambiguity.
She learned to name the impact of his behaviour directly and the stronger she became about this, the easier it became to manage her trauma symptoms.
Over-thinking reduced, and the sense that her life was spiralling out of control became less intense.
She also felt more able to challenge her partner on the gap between his actions and the values, commitments and promises he had made within their marriage.
This was not about confrontation for its own sake, but about establishing clarity, accountability, and a foundation for future decisions.
Priya now feels able to advocate for herself, with a clear understanding of what she is willing to accept, and what she is not.
FAQs
Is this the same as therapy?
Recovery Compass is a psycho-educational program that includes specialist teaching, guided resources and optional therapeutic process groups.
It is different from individual therapy and is designed to provide structured guidance that you can work through with your chosen level of support.
Do I have to decide whether to stay or leave the relationship?
No. Recovery Compass does not pressure you to make immediate decisions about the future of your relationship. Many women feel pushed to quickly decide whether to stay or leave after discovering sexual betrayal and deception, even though they are still in shock and trying to understand what has happened.
This program is designed to help you focus on yourself and your own needs first. From that place, you will be in a much stronger position to make your own decisions about your life and relationship when you feel ready.
What if I have already decided whether to stay or leave the relationship?
Recovery Compass is helpful whether you have decided to stay in the relationship or have already chosen to leave.
Many betrayed partners find that the emotional impact of sexual betrayal continues even after a decision has been made about the relationship. Feelings of confusion, mistrust, grief or anger can remain long after the initial discovery.
If your coupleship has ended but you continue to be connected to your partner as co-parents, it can help to receive support with your healing.
The program focuses on helping you understand the impact of betrayal, process what has happened and rebuild trust in your own judgement, regardless of the direction your relationship has taken.
What if my partner refuses help or denies the problem?
Recovery Compass focuses on you and your healing. Your partner does not participate in the program.
Many betrayed partners find themselves trying to make sense of what has happened while their partner minimises, denies or avoids responsibility.
The program helps you understand these dynamics, recognise what genuine responsibility and accountability look like. You'll begin identifying the boundaries and conditions that support your safety and healing.
If your partner is ready to receive support, Rhian can signpost him towards solutions that will help him.
But if your partner is unwilling to seek help at this time, you can still gain what you need from Recovery Compass.
Is this suitable if my partner is receiving help for sex addiction?
Yes. Recovery Compass is designed to support you regardless of whether your partner is receiving help or not.
Many women find that even when their partner begins treatment for sex addiction or problematic sexual behaviour, their own trauma and confusion are still largely unaddressed.
This program focuses on your recovery by helping you understand the impact of sexual betrayal and deception, recognise what genuine accountability looks like and regain trust in your own judgement.
Your partner’s recovery work and your healing journey are related, but they are not the same process. Recovery Compass provides the structure and guidance to help you focus on your own path ahead.
What if the betrayal happened a long time ago?
Recovery Compass can still be helpful even if your discovery happened months or even years ago.
Many women find that the impact of sexual betrayal does not simply fade with time. If the harm was never fully understood, addressed or repaired, feelings of confusion, anxiety or mistrust can continue long after the initial discovery.
The program helps you make sense of what happened, understand the ongoing impact and begin healing regardless of when the betrayal occurred.
Can you tell me more about the live sessions?
The 8 learning steps are delivered live by Rhian but you can always watch a replay in The Recovery Compass portal if you can't attend. It can be helpful for your learning experience when you make a commitment to attend the live teaching sessions.
Process groups are only offered as live, interactive experiences. Each session will include a guided trauma healing or nervous system regulation practice, processing and integration work and the opportunity to share and ask questions. They are not recorded to protect participants' privacy.
How long do I have to access the program?
You will have lifetime access to the program materials and live session replays in the Recovery Compass portal.
From time to time we may update or add to the materials in the portal and you will automatically have access to these.
Lifetime access refers to the lifetime of the program or the business, rather than your personal lifetime.
What are Rhian's credentials?
- Relate-qualified Relationship Therapist
- One-year post qualification program in Psychosexual Therapy
- Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma Therapist (DSTT)
- PGCE (Post-compulsory Education and Training)
- Domestic Abuse Certificate
- Urban Tantra Professional
Professional development studies:
- APSATS (Association For Partners Of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists) Multi-dimensional Partner Trauma Model Training
- Couples & Affairs (Relate)
- Working With Sex Addiction
- Supporting The Partners Of Sex Addicts
- Supporting Couples Impacted By Sex Addiction
- Narcissistic Abuse (dynamics, trauma recovery etc)
- Domestic Violence Individual Structured Assessment
- Somatics: Attachment Therapy, Therapies For Trauma, Vagal Toning & Parts Work
- Diploma In Mindfulness
- Trauma-informed Yoga For PTSD
- Breathwork Instructor
Rhian is a Senior Member of the ACCPH (Accredited Counsellors, Coaches, Psychotherapists & Hypnotherapists).
She studied her very first counselling qualification in 2005.
Can Rhian help me individually?
Rhian still manages a very limited caseload of couples via video call. You can reach out to [email protected] to enquire about availability. There may be a waiting list.
What is your refund policy?
Recovery Compass is delivered through a series of structured learning steps released over time. Once you enrol, you will receive access to the program portal and bonus materials, and refunds are not available.
By enrolling, you agree that access to program bonus materials will begin immediately and you waive the statutory 14-day cooling-off period.
Please ensure the program feels like the right fit for you before enrolling. If you want to ask any questions about your suitability for the program, please reach out by email to [email protected] and Rhian will respond to you personally.
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