free CHECKLIST
Why Your Body Still Feels Anxious, Frozen Or On High Alert Even Months After Discovering His Betrayal
A free self-reflection tool for women healing from intimate partner betrayal. Finally understand why you're still struggling and discover what to do next.
about the CHECKLIST
How will the Survival Mode Checklist help me?
Intimate partner betrayal cuts deep.
Beyond the shock of discovering your partner’s deception, many women are left carrying anxiety, self-doubt, hypervigilance and a sense of being stuck, with little understanding of why they still feel this way.
If you hoped you’d be feeling better by now, yet instead feel unsettled, overwhelmed or unable to move forward, this checklist was created to help you make sense of that experience.
Inside, you’ll:
Identify common signs that your nervous system may still be in survival mode following sexual betrayal.
Understand why your emotional and physical reactions make sense, rather than feeling like a failure to heal.
Recognise how ongoing secrecy, minimisation, or lack of safety can keep you feeling stuck.
Feel validated and less alone as you see your experience reflected clearly and compassionately.
Gain clarity about why time alone has not resolved the impact of betrayal, and what tends to help next.
This is not another diagnostic assessment.
It’s a gentle, trauma-informed self-reflection tool designed to help you understand your experience and reduce self-blame.
ABOUT the creator
Rhian Kivits
Therapist, Educator & Founder Of The Betrayal Prescription®
I’m a Relate-qualified Sex and Relationship Therapist and Deceptive Sexuality & Trauma Therapist specialising in the impact of sexual betrayal on partners and relationships.
I created The Betrayal Prescription to focus on helping women make sense of betrayal trauma, restore their sense of safety and stability and regain clarity after intimate deception, secrecy and integrity abuse.
I take a trauma-informed, body-aware approach that recognises how intimate partner betrayal affects the survivor’s nervous system, attachment patterns and sense of reality.
My work is partner-centred and focused on stabilisation, understanding and restorative justice rather than rushing forgiveness or forcing reconciliation.
“I didn’t feel safe enough to reflect deeply, yet with Rhian’s support and gentle challenge I was able to find my self-belief and finally see where changes were needed. Thank you so much for having the belief in me that I did not have in myself at a time when it was most needed.”
A | Coach
“I was stuck and unable to cope but Rhian showed me how to come out the other side with more knowledge and strength and I am better for the experience. I am finding peace in my life and and sense of wanting to be alive."
Laura | Hypnotherapist
“Before working with Rhian, we didn’t know if we could stay together. I had intense anxiety and struggled to cope with daily life. Rhian’s sensible approach helped me think clearly enough to explore the options. As I started to feel safer and calmer, I felt able to make the right decision, with certainty."
D | Lawyer
“I lacked perspective on my relationship and was afraid to stay true to myself. Rhian opened my eyes, and now I feel far more worthy because I have found forgiveness and love for myself."
Kate | Nutritionist
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