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Still feeling stuck after intimate partner betrayal? This is for you...

You're doing your best to cope after discovering your partner's hidden intimate secrets but no matter how much time passes, you still feel anxious, confused and frozen.

You're not broken. Your body and mind may still be operating in survival mode.

This Free Survival Mode Checklist will help you make sense of why healing can feel so hard after discovering your partner's infidelity through serial cheating, internet misuse, hidden habits or other forms of deceptive intimate behaviour, even when you desperately want to feel better.

It's a self-reflection tool to help you understand how this betrayal has affected your mind, body and well-being.

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about the CHECKLIST

How will the Survival Mode Checklist help me?

Intimate partner betrayal cuts deep.

Beyond the shock of discovering your partner’s deception, many women are left carrying anxiety, self-doubt, hypervigilance and a sense of being stuck, with little understanding of why they still feel this way.

If you hoped you’d be feeling better by now, yet instead feel unsettled, overwhelmed or unable to move forward, this checklist was created to help you make sense of that experience.

Inside, you’ll:

Identify common signs that your nervous system may still be in survival mode following sexual betrayal.

Understand why your emotional and physical reactions make sense, rather than feeling like a failure to heal.

Recognise how ongoing secrecy, minimisation, or lack of safety can keep you feeling stuck.

Feel validated and less alone as you see your experience reflected clearly and compassionately.

Gain clarity about why time alone has not resolved the impact of betrayal, and what tends to help next.

This is not another diagnostic assessment.

It’s a gentle, trauma-informed self-reflection tool designed to help you understand your experience and reduce self-blame.

ABOUT the creator

Rhian Kivits

Therapist, Educator & Founder Of The Betrayal Prescription®

I’m a Relate-qualified sex and relationship therapist specialising in the impact of intimate partner betrayal on partners and relationships.

I created The Betrayal Prescription to focus on helping women make sense of betrayal trauma, restore their sense of safety and stability and regain clarity after intimate deception, secrecy and integrity abuse.

I take a trauma-informed, body-aware approach that recognises how intimate partner betrayal affects the survivor’s nervous system, attachment patterns and sense of reality.

My work is partner-centred and focused on stabilisation, understanding and restorative justice rather than rushing forgiveness or forcing reconciliation.

“Her calming, caring yet reflective and provocative style means that you feel safe enough to reflect yet challenged enough to see where changes are needed. Thank you so much for having the belief in me that I did not have in myself at a time when it was most needed.”

A | Coach

“Rhian has enabled me to move forward with my life. She has helped me cope with some difficult times and come out the other side with more knowledge, stronger and better for the experience. I am finding peace in my life and sense of wanting to be alive."

Laura | Hypnotherapist

“There are some people who just have the gift for saying the right thing. You've been a ray of light."

D | Homemaker

“My eyes have been opened and I now have so much new perspective on my relationship. And I've also improved my communication skills in places where I had been afraid to stay true to myself before. I feel far more worthy as a person now and have found forgiveness and love for myself."

Kate | Nutritionist

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